Big tits, big fun

This topic has been covered a lot, I know but I feel like I have to write a little something about it, from my own perspective. Firstly, I have a lot to say on this topic so I’m going to try and narrow it down as well as try to not turn this into some rant. I will also be talking about men/women/people broadly so I want to clarify that I understand not all people act the way as I am going to describe but for arguments sake and for ease, I’m just going to generalise.


Firstly, I am a 21 year old girl, fairly good looks and have been blessed with cup size F boobs despite my small stature. Because of this I do get a lot of comments and stares, especially when I end up showing a bit of cleavage – from men and women.

For starters, I would like to clarify (and I’m sure other big breasted women can agree) that it is SO difficult to find clothes that not only fit when I’m size 10 on the shoulders and stomach but size 12-14 round the bust but also clothes that don’t make my boobs look saggy or the rest of my body look fat. So no, I do not choose clothes specifically to show off my boobs, I choose clothes that make my entire body look good and that includes tops that are low cut most of the time. If I want to buy a top that looks, to your standards, “decent” and “appropriate” then I would like 3 sizes bigger that I actually am. I am not prepared to do this, much like you are not prepared to wear baggy tracksuits to cover up the outline of your cock.

This isn’t to say that I never want my boobs to be out because quite frankly, I like this to an extent and if I want to show them off then I will. Men are allowed to show off parts of their body and girls can show off their legs and what not so why are breasts any different? Let me shine some light on this.


Have we sexualised women’s breasts?

Let me first clarify that when talking about this topic, many people arguing against women’s breasts being sexual claim that the breast is only for milk-making purposes but this is not wholly true. The mammary glands exist for feeding infants but the bit that makes that wibbly wobbly jiggly wiggly booby thing men seem to love has nothing to do with feeding your young. So why do we have them? Why not just nipples? It isn’t like these fatty tissues have any physiological advantages so why would they have evolved as they have?

You could put it down to reproductive terms in that the large breasts signify fertility and act as a beacon to men to let them know we are ready for children. This works for me as a theory but only to an extent as it only applies to Western culture. If one looks at other countries, the breasts are not the main feature of the “sexual woman.” You simply cannot deny this if you look at tribal societies where breasts are just not a big deal as women have them out all the time. In Europe, by the mid 1980s topless advertising was having a similar effect in that nudity just become something that was – there was no big deal made out of it because everyone was so used to seeing it.

Is this why women fundamentally do not sexualise the male body? I think so. Men are allowed to go topless in public whilst women could get arrested for doing it. Covering up is adding to the idea that being topless is wrong and that breasts are only meant for sexual purposes. I mean why the hell do you think there is such a controversy over breast feeding in public??

Even a similar blogger touches on the same topic as me (albeit in a more succinct way!) :

Fetishes are created by selectively hiding and revealing — making that which is hidden enticing. Both men and women become intrigued. (Women do experience all this a bit differently from men, which I’ll discuss later.)

Meanwhile, a student of mine lived in Iran after the Islamic revolution when women strictly covered themselves except for the face. She told me that every now and again she would pull her veil back a little and watch the men go wild over her “hair cleavage.”

In America around the turn of the last century even seeing an ankle was sexy because they were always covered. In some old family photos one of my grandmothers is pulling her skirt up above her ankle to look scandalously sexy. I couldn’t even comprehend what she was doing until someone explained.

Covering is captivating. If you see the same thing all the time, it’s no big deal.

(Source: Broad Blogs )


So yes, I believe we as a society have overly sexualised the female body, especially the breasts and it is the women that suffer for it. We are consistently judged for what we wear. I’m sure you’ve read about the various rape trials where people question what the victim was wearing at the time of said attack.

I can’t count the amount of times I’ve had people comment on my body from my friends, to my coworkers, to my boss and even customers at work. Not only is it inappropriate but it is as if they are dictating what I should wear in such situations, which fundamentally is wrong. I am sorry I have big breasts but there is no reason for you to comment on them. I’ve had full conversations with people where  they are just staring at my boobs and don’t even bother to look me in the eyes.

I no longer get upset at the individual people who do that because it is our society and the media that perpetuates this sort of behaviour and unfortunately I cannot give you an answer to how to solve this problem.

Perhaps we need a female in a position of power or perhaps we need to stick it to the man and just strip in public (it’s already happened in various stands across the country) but whether or not that will help, who knows. All I know is that for posting this, I’m sure to get some people calling me a “frigid fucking feminist.”

It’s a sad world we live in, my friends.

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4 thoughts on “Big tits, big fun

  1. From a male point of view… Regardless of respect, attitudes to sexism and feminism, time of day or societal pressures or norms I find it very difficult to ignore a good pair of tits. Its awful if it causes the lady any awkward or uncomfortable feelings. It’s also a shame that this can lead to me becoming overly conscious of where I am looking rather than just being able to acknowledge them as beautiful and move on. I mean, we do it with eyes (I have been lucky enough to have women compliment me on my eyes) so why not with boobs?
    I must admit a compliment makes me uncomfortable but not as uncomfortable as someone staring, appropriating sideways glances or jabbing their mates in the ribs to take a look.
    In your opinion what would I best be doing? Really I want to celebrate all beauty in life but never at the expense of someone else’s feelings. And ALWAYS believe there are more attractive things about a person than their physical attributes.

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    • Thanks for the comment – I’ve never thought about it on same terms as complimenting someone’s eyes, that’s a very good point you make.

      I think the problem is the type of compliment people receive when comparing eyes and tits. The types of compliments associated with boobs are horrendous ones and they go beyond just calling them beautiful. Personally I prefer it if a guy (after talking to me for a while) turns around and says ‘you have fantastic boons’ and then moves on. Sadly that sentence is attached to consistent staring, other phrases and sometimes even laughter.

      I understand that it must be difficult for guys (or girls) to not look at boobs if they are great (I’ll admit that I have stolen a few glances). However, if I were to give you advice the only thing I can say is that if you really want to celebrate the beauty of boobs then celebrate them nicely. Like you said, acknowledge them and move on!

      I hope this comment makes sense – sorry for the essay!!

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      • It makes sense. Absolutely. No apology necessary. Take a little consolation in knowing you have changed how I see and think about things. And that your fantastic boobs and blog brighten up a far to dreary world. Thanks for replying. D

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